Family, life and purpose: a view from the Torah.
- Rabino Rótem Tómer
- 2 days ago
- 4 min read
Why is bringing children into the world still a blessing?
To prosper and multiply is not merely a biological possibility, but a blessing and a divine commandment for all humanity. From the Torah's perspective, even the descendants of Noah—that is, all of humanity—are called to understand the responsibility and value of forming a family.
There is a popular expression in Spanish: “every child is born with bread under their arm.” This idea is not only cultural, but has roots in Jewish tradition, which teaches that every life that comes into the world is accompanied by its sustenance and purpose.
However, in the modern context, this view has weakened.
The change in perception: from blessing to burden
Today, many people perceive children as a burden rather than an asset. Economic uncertainty, social pressure, and the constant pursuit of status have distorted our understanding of family.
But it's worth pausing and asking a direct question:
What does a child really need?
She doesn't need luxury, or brands, or to compete in a race she never chose. She needs something much more essential:
authentic love
emotional warmth
a stable family structure
When these elements are lacking, even material wealth becomes a form of poverty.
The distortion of love and the loss of responsibility
In parallel, contemporary culture has promoted a vision of freedom detached from responsibility. The concept of love has been replaced in many cases by a pursuit of pleasure without limits or commitment.
This has led to:
weakening of the family role
loss of responsibility towards children
normalization of decisions disconnected from the purpose of life
From the perspective of the Torah, this contradicts the fundamental principles established for humanity, particularly the Seven Universal Commandments.
The family as a spiritual axis
The figure of Noah and his family represents a clear model: a structure based on values, education, and responsibility.
Thanks to this, they managed to survive in a corrupt world.
The teaching is straightforward:
A society is sustained or destroyed according to the quality of its families.
When the family structure weakens, disordered patterns appear that generate moral confusion and loss of direction.
Desire: a force that must be channeled
The Torah does not deny human nature. It does not promote absolute abstinence.
On the contrary, it teaches that desire—including sexual desire—is a sacred force that must be channeled correctly.
Just as ambition can lead to growth or theft, sexuality can elevate or degrade.
The correct framework is clear:
structured family
commitment
moral responsibility
Outside of this framework, desire loses its original purpose.
Limits and awareness according to the Torah
Tradition establishes clear limits regarding sexuality, not as an arbitrary restriction, but as a protection of the moral and spiritual order.
The prohibitions include:
incest
destructive or disordered relationships
practices that disconnect the act from its purpose
It is also emphasized that human life has absolute value, and decisions such as abortion or the use of certain contraceptive methods should be treated with extreme seriousness and proper guidance.
Science, fertility, and spiritual responsibility
Modern advances have enabled fertility treatments that, under proper supervision, are considered a positive action within the effort to bring life into the world.
This reinforces a key idea:
Bringing children into the world is not just a biological act, but a profound spiritual commitment.
Free will: the decision that defines everything
One of the central concepts of the Torah is free will.
Unlike angels, human beings have the capacity to choose. And that choice begins with something fundamental:
decide to live consciously.
Noah and his family made that decision in a completely corrupt world.
They chose to align themselves with the truth, even when it was the most difficult thing to do.
Practical application: return to the center
This message is not theoretical. It has direct application in daily life:
to value the family as a spiritual nucleus
take responsibility for personal decisions
understand the purpose behind every action
Build relationships based on commitment and meaning
The key question is not just “what do I want?”, but:
Does this bring me closer to or further from the purpose for which I was created?
A community to grow with direction
In a world where references are fading, it is difficult to sustain this path alone.
Therefore, spiritual growth requires:
guide
structure
community
The Bnei Noaj Community functions precisely as that space: a place to learn, ask questions, grow, and strengthen spiritual life with clear direction.
Every week, people from different countries connect to study, reflect, and advance on this path.
Final reflection
Life is not just about existing, but about building.
Building family. Building awareness. Building purpose.
And to understand that every decision—especially the most intimate ones—has a profound impact not only on us, but on future generations.
If this message resonates with you, you don't have to walk this path alone. You can continue learning and growing within the Bnei Noaj Community, a space designed to accompany you with clarity, seriousness, and purpose.
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